Pastor John Gray resigns from leading Relentless Church to work on his flesh and marriage
Pastor John Gray resigned from leading the Relentless Church in South Carolina a few months ago. Although, many believe Gray’s troubled evacuation lawsuits, which he settled with Ron Carpenter, is the reason, he revealed that it was not the real reason for his resignation.
On Sunday, in a lengthy Instagram post, Gray revealed that he stepped down to work with his wife on his marriage.
“A few months ago, I [stepped] down from leading at Relentless. My life wasn’t in order. Church isn’t first. My wife is,” Gray wrote on the post.
The post was a picture of his wife on the cover of WOE (Women of Excellence) magazine. In the post, he detailed how he met his wife, how he met her at church, and how he needed to grow up, but she nevertheless said yes and married him.
“I never knew what consistent discipline, planning, leadership, manhood, or personal holiness in action from a man’s standpoint looked like. Living a shadow life, God was unwilling to let me die assuming I was whole.”
Pastor Gray’s post said that although he had never slept with another woman, he was still cheating on her emotionally.
“I have failed to uphold God’s sacred standards in my marriage. And I am sorry. Even though you are the only woman I sleep with, emotional infidelity is completely wrong.”
He also stressed that, although people try to classify different sins, all sins are wrong, whether they are considered small or large. He said in the post, “Sin is sin. People want to reduce one sin to another, when all this can send you to hell,” he said in the post.
Gray added that he always loved God and preached Jesus, but still needed to work on his problems and “face [himself].”
“My marriage forced me to face both of me. Flesh versus spirit. It is every man’s battle. Loving God isn’t enough. Preaching Jesus isn’t enough. Face yourself. Get delivered. Or hurt the ones who actually love you the most,” he wrote.
Pastor John Gray resigns and started his journey to deliverance, which provided him with in-depth counseling. He said it was “the most important thing ever.” It took time, but, eventually, he started to grow.” He said that when he saw his wife’s name in the blogs because of his actions, his soul was “broken”. The public embarrassment caused him the most pain.
In the post, Gray took the time to describe how amazing his wife is.
“Aventer you are a miracle to me. I am sorry for the pain I have caused you. You name should have NEVER come up in any conversation in any negative way with anyone ever. I must do the work to earn your trust. I’ve lived a life I’m not proud of in so many areas, but before I die, I will be the man God intended and the husband that Your heart can rest with,” he said.