“A MAN SHOULD CONTROL HIS HOUSE BUT NOT OPPRESS HIS PARTNER” – COMEDY MERCHANT OPA WILLIAMS TALKS MARRIED LIFE WITH HIS PASTOR WIFE

September 7, 2013

Comedy merchant and initiator of Nite of a Thousand Laugh – one of the most successful comedy platforms in Nigeria – Opa Williams reveals how he encouraged his wife to be born again before proposing to her – also, the reason why he chose the part saying he needed her to uphold his own faith in God.

He got married officially to his wife, Patricia, a pastor in Foursquare Gospel Church, Surulere, in 1994…

Their marriage is blessed with three kids. The couple speaks on their journey into marriage….

How I met her

I got married officially on 24 September, 1994. Come next year, I will be 20 years in marriage, though I have lived with my wife for 24 years. I met her in my sister’s saloon in 1988.You know when a man meets a woman, the next thing is for them to strike a relationship. We became friends before we started staying together. She had her first child in 1990, two years after I met her. I told her then, if I’m going to marry her, you must become born again.
I wasn’t born again but I think I knew my weakness. I felt that if I’m not strong in faith, I needed somebody who will be strong in faith. I think that was what delayed our marriage in the first place. I insisted she must be born again before I would propose to her. Then, she was more of a church goer.

Attraction

She was innocent, young and respectful. These were the things that attracted me to her.

How we live

Most times, I’m domineering because I have to dominate my house. And she respects my decisions. Sometimes, she makes her own decisions as well, and I respect them. I think problem sets in when one party wants to lord it over the other. Even though we are married, we have our different destinies. She has her destiny as a human being just as I have my own destiny. It is for her to fulfill her destiny just as it’s for me to fulfill mine. I will help her to fulfill her destiny and she will help me to fulfill mine. When my wife was setting up her school, she told me that’s what she wanted. I had wanted us to set up a farm. But she asked me to support her and I did. As a man, you must be in control of your house, but you must not oppress your partner. In fact, most times, it’s oppression and assertion of ‘my will and not your will’ that leads to the break up of most marriages.

I am waiting for him to join me in my ministry — Wife

I am children’s pastor at Foursquare Gospel Church, Surulere. I became a pastor in 2003. I attended a Life Bible College in 2000, and graduated in 2003. Our relationship started when I was living with my elder sister. I was very young then. Later, I got a job with Ibru Sea foods. He has been a source of encouragement to me. He is the kind of man that does not interfere in his spouse’s career. He gives you the chance to do whatever you feel would give you happiness. Because of this, I also encourage him in any project he wants to embark upon. I always pray for him and stand by him. I know God is doing wonderful things in his life and I have no doubt in my mind that one day, he will join me in my ministry…

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